Feminist rant belittles motherhood

I didn’t want to write this blog post. I tried not to write it. I tried to ignore the latest feminist rant article about how stay-at-home-moms are undoing decades of progressive women. But this most recent article by Amy Glass got to me more than most. Her title, “I Look Down on Young Women with Husbands and Kids and I’m Not Sorry” is just the beginning of what … Continue reading»

Protecting Playtime

Playtime. It’s a simple thing, really, but lately I have been learning more and more about the importance of adult-free playtime for kids. This week, an article by bio-psychologist Peter Gray in “The Independent,” hit home for me about how the lack of true play is affecting our youngest generation. He writes: “The most important skills that children everywhere must learn in order to live happy, productive, moral … Continue reading»

Is it better to raise kids in the East or the West?

Sometimes I don’t know how my husband and I are still married because we are so different in a lot of ways. We were raised on opposite sides of the country in very different homes, and so my type-A personality often clashes with his “it will all work out” worldview. This was never more evident than during a recent conversation with our 6-year-old daughter. She was upset about … Continue reading»

Living in the Moment

being present

I always have trouble picking just one New Year’s Resolution because I have a laundry list of things I am currently trying to improve. So when I have to pick just one, it seems impossible. But this year, I have folded all the things into one, overarching goal that has been haunting me: Be More Present. This is something I have been thinking about and hoping to be … Continue reading»

Writing to a Birth Mom


Writing our adoption profile was one of the most difficult things I’ve had to write in my life. I’ve been a writer all my life, but as I stared at the blank page with the task to tell a birth mother about my family, my mind was blank. How do you summarize your family to someone searching for parents for their baby? How do you tell someone about … Continue reading»

Thinking of Mary


My daughter is obsessed with Jesus. Christmas is her favorite time of year because there are baby Jesus miniatures in all shapes and sizes around the house that she can stick in her pocket to take to the grocery store. She also likes to stick stuffed animals under her shirt and then wait until we are in line at the grocery store when she pulls the animal out, … Continue reading»

The Santa Story — naughty or nice?

I recently drank a heavy dose of Santa guilt. This was brought on by a woman in my ward telling me that she does not endorse Santa in her household because she does not want to be the kind of mother who lies to her children. Ooh, where do I sign up? I definitely want to be the kind of mother who lies to her children. Big, fat, … Continue reading»

Top toys that I will never buy

I sat down to write my annual list of horrible toys that I hope no parent actually ever buys, and I wasn’t quite sure where to start. First, there is the continuing trend this year of putting a smartphone or iPad in ridiculous places where such devices simply shouldn’t be. For example, here’s the iPotty.  I’m glad we are sending the message to kids early that there need … Continue reading»

Wives trying to change their husbands

I saw Disney’s new move, “Frozen,” with my girls over Thanksgiving weekend. Loved it. I also cried like a baby at several points because the two sisters in the movie reminded me so much of my own two daughters. My own sister was at the movie with us, so add that to the emotional heap and I was a bit of a ridiculous mess. There was also another … Continue reading»

Life’s Imperfect Moments

Earlier this month my kids and I did a Thanksgiving craft together that I think is adorable because I think anything made out of clay pots is adorable. It’s a pot! It’s a pilgrim! The shenanigans are endless around here. Anyway, here’s the final product: So, notice anything weird about this pilgrim threesome? Papa pilgrim. Normal. Mama pilgrim. Normal. Baby pilgrim? Holy psycho! Somehow when I wasn’t looking, … Continue reading»