Advice for the new Royal Mom

The royal baby has arrived in glorious monarch fashion with a gun salute and people anxiously waiting around the world for a glimpse of the newest royal heir.

I think moms everywhere are fascinated by the birth of the royal little one because it makes us feel like in some small, tiny, miniscule way, we are like Duchess Kate Middleton. We know what she had to do to get that baby here because we’ve been there. Perhaps she, too, has stretchmarks and stitches and is right now experiencing the trauma and majesty of the first day of breastfeeding. And we know, too, that we share that euphoric moment when you see your baby for the first time and fall instantly in love – royal heir or not.

Of course, there will be some major differences between my regular mommy experience and Kate’s royal one. For starters, I also had hyperemesis gravidum (a severe form of morning sickness), but I never came out of my IV fluid treatments looking like this:


I looked more like this:


So although I feel a mommy connection with Kate Middleton, I know the similarities have their limits. She will have nannies who are specially trained to wipe the royal bum, for example.

But like all mothers, I feel compelled to share a bit of new mommy advice for the Duchess. Here’s the best advice I ever received on being a mother: Do What You Want.

It’s simple and sweet but gets right to the point. You can read all the books. You can listen to all the advice from everyone from grandmothers to random ladies at the grocery store who think they know better how to raise your child. You can drive yourself crazy with conflicting theories on sleep, eating and nurturing.

But at the end of the day, YOU are the mom. You know your baby better than anyone in this world. Trust your gut. Do what you want.

That advice might be harder to take while raising a son in the royal family and in front of the paparazzi, but it still rings true. Kate will be praised and criticized for her mothering techniques just like the rest of us. She will have days where she feels like she is the perfect mother. She will have nights where she cries herself to sleep for falling short.

So to Duchess Kate I say good luck. Enjoy every moment—even the tear-soaked ones. Royal or regular, we are all in this together doing our very best everyday to figure out this thing called motherhood.

What advice would you give to Kate on being a royal mum or regular mom?


  1. John Charity Spring

    Stewart has truly missed the mark here. Indeed, her advice is wrong in almost every respect.

    First, her advice to the American public should be, “Ignore the royal family and get on with your lives.” American fought a War of Independance to rid itself of Brittish Imperialism forever. Why are so many American women now willing inviting it back into their lives? The Brittish royalty is pompous, elitist, and out of touch with reality. Those who follow the royal family at the neglect of their own should be condemned.

    Second, it is not and never has been OK for a mother to “just do what she wants.” This is egocentric parenting at its worst. Mothers, and fathers, cannot just decide what is morally right. Parents MUST teach their children to be honest, loyal, hard working, and morally upright. A failure to do this will result in children who grow up to be troubled criminals, ragardless of whether they have royal blood or not.

  2. SLCgal

    John Charity – you are clearly not a mother.

    Because if you were, you would know what it’s like to get swamped with advice from everyone, from your mother to the little old lady three rows behind you at church. With motherhood, comes opinions. Everyone has one – all talilored to Their children. What works for Their family…. Theirs- not YOURS! Erin is spot on that at the end of the day, you need to ignore the peanut gallery and trust your gut.

    As for Kate, once she had her baby, she joined a secret sorority called “been there- done that”. Then you remember she has hoards of nannies, maids, cooks, and at the same time, she has to raise Prince George in the public eye that thanks to the world of 24/7 media is more instense then it’s ever been. Who cares if we succeded from England? In England it’s a pretty big deal, so why not celebrate with them?

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