First Lady Michelle Obama’s referred to herself as a “busy single mother” during an interview last week. She quickly corrected herself, saying she only feels like a single mom sometimes, but her slip of the tongue sparked a bit of an outcry from actual single moms who don’t have a husband — let alone an entire staff of White House helpers — to ease their burden.
I agree that married women can’t truly identify with the struggles of a single mother who has to be mother and sole breadwinner for her kids, but I think there is a growing group of so-called “single married moms” out there who are raising their children alone. Whether their husbands are in the military, travel often or are just working long hours, these women are basically doing everything in the home.
I married a man who is home every night. He doesn’t work late hours at the office and doesn’t travel for his job. I am insanely lucky and need to remind myself of that more often. I am also a pretty needy mom. I need breaks. I need to tag out to my husband at the end of the day. I need to not be the only one on deck all the time.
So I am in awe of my friends whose husbands are absent most of the time. These friends are thrilled when their husbands come home before midnight or if dad gets to see his children before bedtime.
I honestly don’t know how these women do it, just as I can’t comprehend being a single mom with no one to rely on but myself. My biggest question is how do these “single married moms” maintain a relationship with their spouse and ensure dad has a good relationship with his children? How do they go all day, every day without a break?
Are any of you in this situation? How do you keep the family running strong when your husband is gone?