I walked into a friend’s house recently and couldn’t escape the feeling that Pinterest had thrown up allover her living room. Every nook and cranny of her home was filled with homemade crafts, elaborate chore charts and uplifting thoughts plastered on decorative tiles.
My first reaction was the same one I always have: “I am lame. She is awesome. I am going to copy her ideas and I will be awesome, too.”
It’s the same feeling I get each time I scroll through sites like Pinterest. The cycle is always the same: I spend my precious time looking through everything from how to make flower fabric doilies to creating chore charts that are clearly the key to my children being successful in life. In the end, I just feel overwhelmed — defeated before I’ve even started on a single idea.
Sites like Pinterest can be incredible tools for mothers to help enrich our homes and spread ideas. But sites sometimes make me feel like the worst mother of all time. In an attempt to edify and simplify the lives of mothers, these sites (and even well-meaning mommy blogs) can sometimes be our worst enemies: a portal into other people’s lives that only show the most wonderful moments and most perfect homes.
It always seems like these other online moms have perfect lives: smiling kids who never misbehave, a well-organized home complete with chore systems and poster-sized summer bucket lists and enough spare time to stick adorable love notes into their children’s sack lunches (which are well-balanced, homemade and educational, by the way.)
I remind myself in these moments that these singular crafts and moments on a mother’s blog are just that: singular. A mother who posts about her amazing mother-of-the-year museum outing with her children may also have fallen asleep on the couch while her 4-year-old watched TV for an hour. That little tidbit won’t make it on the blog, however.
If I lined up only the photos of all the fun outings, adorable moments and crafts I’ve done with my kids, my life would seem unattainably awesome, too.
I also remind myself that all the homemade crafts and recipes in the world can’t make a good mother. The only thing that can do that is time and love — two things that definitely cannot be found on Pinterest, no matter how many hours you search.
Do you ever feel inadequate when looking through sites like Pinterest or other mothers’ blogs? How do you keep perspective?