Same-sex attraction at BYU is getting a public spotlight this week thanks to a video by an unofficial group of students and faculty.
The video, produced by a group called Understanding Same-Gender Attraction, features BYU students talking about the struggles of having same-sex attraction while also being members of the LDS church and BYU students. It is eye-opening.
As a mother, the most heartbreaking part of the video was when a female BYU student talked about how as a teenager, she thought about committing suicide. She thought her parents would be less traumatized by her death than by her coming out of the closet.
Horrible. It would kill me to hear my child say that.
The best part of this video is that there is no mention of politics. No debate over nature vs. choice. There is not even mention of what exactly it entails to be a homosexual student at BYU — the university Honor Code, for example, states same-sex attraction is not a violation of the school’s policy as long as student behavior meets the school’s standards.
In the video, there is nothing but love, support and encouragement. These BYU students have been through horrible things and dark moments to get to the point where they are happy enough and confident enough to share their stories publicly. That is not only brave, but a selfless act filled with love.
And if this video teaches nothing else, its core message to me is love. The debates on homosexuality will likely rage on forever. Each side will probably just get more entrenched.
But these BYU students are on the right track. It’s not about who is right or who is wrong — or even what is right or wrong. It’s about real people — sons and daughters of parents who undoubtedly love them as much as I love my own little girls — who are in need of love, support and understanding.
What do you think of the video, and of the struggles of homosexual LDS or BYU students in general?