Forget me nots

How much do you love President Dieter F. Uchtdorf?

I love him. His talks always leave me feeling motivated and like he is speaking directly to me. I’m sure millions of women around the world felt the same way after his talk on Saturday night during the general Relief Society meeting of the LDS Church.

President Uchtdorf mentioned five things women should never forget, and two of them jumped out at me as particularly wonderful advice for young moms.

* Forget not to be patient with yourself: It’s true; I am my biggest critic. All moms are. As President Uchtodrf aptly pointed out, we compare our weaknesses against other women’s strengths. We pick the areas where we fall short and hyperfocus on them. I dwell on the fact that Johnny’s mom makes her own organic baby food. Another mother wakes up at 5 a.m. to run five miles every morning while I ate my weight in chocolate cookies this week.

But really, who cares?

“God is fully aware that you and I are not perfect,” he said. “Let me add: God is fully aware that the people you think are perfect are not.”

* Forget not to be happy now — How many times do I tell myself that life will be easier when the kids are older? Life will be easier when my husband makes more money. Life will be better someday for a million different reasons.

In all my waiting and wishing for the future, I often forget to be happy now. I forget to soak up these years of small children, tiny hands in mine and goodnight kisses. Yes, I will continue to dream that life will be perfect someday, but in the meantime, I need to realize that life is pretty great right now.

And I loved how President Uchtdorf ended his talk with a message that can help every mom who feels alone, tired and like they just can’t do it all.

“Sisters, wherever you are, whatever the circumstances may be, you are not forgotten,” he said. “No matter how dark your days may seem, no matter how insignificant you may feel, no matter how overshadowed you think you may be, your Heavenly Father has not forgotten you. In fact, he loves you, with an infinite love.”

If you saw President Uchtdorf’s talk, what stood out to you as a mom?

Erin Stewart is a regular blogger for Deseret News. From stretch marks to the latest news for moms, Stewart discusses it all while her 4-year-old daughter crams Mr. Potato Head pieces in her little sister’s nose.

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