Cheating spouses

Yet another politician has shown his true colors. Former California Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger announced today he had a secret affair and baby with a house staffer, according to the Los Angeles Times. Schwarzenegger and his wife, Maria Shriver, announced their separation earlier this month.

Come on. Are all of our elected officials seriously this morally bankrupt? Kudos, though, to Schwarzenegger for keeping this information carefully hidden until after his stint as governor was over. Heaven forbid he lose a political opportunity over something as insignificant as a human life he fathered and hid for 10 years.

As I read about Schwarzenegger’s confession, I wondered what Shriver is doing and thinking now. Will she leave her husband for good? Will she give him another chance?

It’s probably not healthy, but when I read stories like this I always put myself into them, and ask myself what I would do in a similar situation. It’s not that I think my husband will ever father an illegitimate child with the maid, but I can’t help wondering how I would react.

Basically, I think I would go numb for a little while. After I was done being in shock over the betrayal, I would get myself out of that marriage. I just don’t think I could stay in a union where I was always wondering where my husband was going, what he was doing or what he had done in the past. Without that trust, I think we would just end up resenting each other and hating life.

But I know there are couples who work through infidelity, and I say good for them. I’m just not sure I’m strong enough for that.

What would you do if you found out your spouse cheated or, like Schwarzenegger, had a child with someone else? Would you try to keep your marriage together or leave without looking back? Does it make a difference if you have children?

Erin Stewart is a regular blogger for Deseret News. From stretch marks to the latest news for moms, Stewart discusses it all while her 4-year-old daughter crams Mr. Potato Head pieces in her little sister’s nose.

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