Blog stalking other moms

Okay, ‘fess up. Are you a blog stalker?

Come on. We’ve all done it. You’re reading a friend’s blog or Facebook account and then click, click, click and you’re looking at pictures of a family you’ve never met and are completely enthralled by how they spent their Fall.

It happens to all of us — and we’re not alone. An article on this week reveals that some Mormon Mommy blogs are garnering lots of online traffic from blog readers everywhere because of their appealing and “uplifting” take on motherhood.

I think it’s great that these Mormon (and non-Mormon) mommy bloggers are sending a positive message about parenting. They are intelligent, witty, and creative women who have chosen motherhood. They are striving to be the best moms they can be, and they are truly enjoying the journey. That’s an awesome message in a world where motherhood is viewed as something you do once you’ve completed other, more worthy goals.

Still, it’s important to remember these blogs are not the whole picture. They depict carefully selected moments of life. People generally don’t blog about the mundane Tuesday afternoon grocery trip. They blog about the hilarious grocery trip where everything goes wrong. Or they write about the 36 handmade cupcakes they crafted to accompany their child’s Princess party.

The truth is that all mommy bloggers choose which photos to post, which stories to tell and which image of themselves they present on the Internet. There is nothing wrong with that, but it can be easy to get caught up in blog stalking other incredible moms and thinking, “Wow, what am I doing wrong? My kids really got shafted.”

If I really believed that the daily lives of other moms are a constant round of creative crafts, hilarious anecdotes and moments of enlightenment, then I would be an epic failure as a mother. What I DO believe is that motherhood is pretty routine, but it’s punctuated with these amazing moments that we see on each other’s blogs.

So keep blogging. Keep blog stalking. Keep contributing your amazing ideas to this growing community of mommy bloggers who are making a new name for Motherhood. Just don’t fall into the trap of confusing or comparing your daily life with the “real life” you see in the blogosphere.

How accurate do you think the lives are that we see on Mommy blogs? What do you think of the mommy blogging phenomenon?

Erin Stewart is a regular blogger for Deseret News. From stretch marks to the latest news for moms, Stewart discusses it all while her 3-year-old daughter crams Mr. Potato Head pieces in her little sister’s nose.

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