Mommy blog bullies

It’s no secret that mommy blogs have taken over the Internet with moms writing about everything from their scrapbooking tips to the color of their baby’s diaper rash.

Some people think it’s too much information, while others can’t go a day without checking in on their favorite mommy blogs. Either way, mommy blogs have certainly created their own culture on the Web.

Part of that culture is in the comments section. Read any mommy blog and you’ll find a slew of people who feel compelled to judge every parenting decision, humorous anecdote or heartfelt question. I know I’ve gotten my share of criticism on this blog. Perhaps my favorite was when I was accused of child abuse for sharing my belief in God with my 3-year-old. Sometimes you just can’t win.

An article this week describes the world of mommy “blog bullies” who take it upon themselves to lambaste moms and their parenting. Perhaps a lot of the animosity toward mommy bloggers is that these writers tend to be brutally honest. They talk about what it really means to a mother, not the sugarcoated, life-is-so-wonderful view often espoused in church and among the moms at playgroup who want to look they have it all together.

So I love the honesty of mommy and think the “blog bullies” are indicative of a much bigger issue. For some reason, other mothers (and often men) feel like it’s their right and responsibility to judge everything a mom does. If she spanks, she’s wrong. If she uses a time-out, she’s wrong. If she works, she’s neglecting her child. If she stays at home, she’s neglecting herself. Seriously, there’s always someone who will judge a mother’s choice.

Where do you think this attitude of judgment toward mothers comes from? In a society where so many people advocate free choice and privacy, why do moms always seem to come under fire?

And on the topic of mommy blogs, do you think they are worthwhile, or do they share too much information? Why do you think they attract so many negative comments?

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