Mom, am I pretty?

While getting dressed yesterday morning, I noticed my 3-year-old daughter was spending a lot of time in front of the mirror, wetting and combing her hair, putting on jewelry and garnishing her hair with several bows.

When she was all done, she turned to me and said, “Am I fancy? I’m afraid someone is going to say, ‘Oh, you’re not so cute.'”

This took me by surprise because I don’t think I’ve ever used the word fancy, and I definitely am not a model of fixing my hair or dressing up to look cute. I even steered clear of any and all “Lil’ Princess” T-shirts for my daughter or clothes that scream “diva in training.”

So I took the opportunity to talk to my daughter about what makes her cute. We talked about how she’s nice and funny and shares her toys. I told her the things that I like best about her including her sense of humor and how she sings to her unborn baby sister. After this conversation, she chimed in, “And my hair is pretty. Mom, am I pretty?”

Oh, well. I tried.

Any tips on how to instill a positive self-image in little girls that doesn’t include looking in the mirror? How can I help my daughter understand at a young age what really makes her beautiful?

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