Sick of the mothers' lounge?

Allow me to vent for a moment about the horror that is the mothers’ lounge.

I’m talking in particular here about the nursing lounges in LDS church buildings, although these rooms in any public building are usually no place where you want to relax and feed your little one.

I was reminded of the inadequacies of the mothers’ lounge this weekend when my sister was forced to nurse her baby while sitting on the floor because the one chair was taken. This chair, by the way, is the same one I used to sit in when I was a child skipping class 20 years ago.

You’d think that for the number of newborn babies that are nursing at any given time in any given church building around the world, the mothers’ lounge would be one of the nicest, most spacious rooms in the building. Oh no. If you’ve ever been into a mothers’ lounge in a church, you know that “lounge” is a complete misnomer. Perhaps “poop-scented sauna” would be a more accurate description?

No matter which church building I go to, the story is the same. One or two rickety chairs, a waft of dirty diaper lingering in the air and no air circulation at all. Don’t even get me started on the lounges that are really just handicapped bathroom stalls furnished with a chair from the ’70s that you have to fight over with the other moms. Yum, nothing would get my appetite going better than knowing I’m eating lunch in a bathroom.

You know that if men were the ones nursing the babies, the fathers’ lounge would have leather La-Z-Boys, a big screen TV and a mini-fridge stocked with sodas and appetizers. Well, I take that back. If men were nursing the babies, then I’m sure nursing in public would be a lot less taboo and they could just latch those little suckers on while teaching Sunday School.

So what’s to be done about the mothers’ lounge? I’ve got a few ideas including moving the changing table into the men’s room, investing in a ventilation system and maybe getting more than one comfortable chair.

I’m not advocating for anything fancy here, just something that would make it so you don’t have to hold your breath while nursing and constantly worry that you’re going to expose yourself in front of the 10 other women that are within a foot of you.

What do you think of the mothers’ lounges in church buildings? What about in other public places? Are there any solutions we mothers could do on our own without a complete renovation?

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