It’s the time of year for New Year’s resolutions. You know, when we commit ourselves to insurmountable tasks and unattainable goals that will only make us feel like losers in a couple months. Add to that a little mommy guilt about all the things that we could and should do better, and it’s truly a magical time of year.
So this year, I’m aiming low. I’m not pledging 16 hours of exercise every day or swearing off chocolate. Instead, I’ve decided to focus on something that I think I can actually do and that will improve my life drastically.
I’m simply going to enjoy motherhood.
I wrote in my column this week about how after my first child was born, my husband and I sat in the hospital recovery room together watching our new daughter sleep.
“Can you ever remember feeling this genuinely happy?” he asked me. I could honestly reply that I couldn’t because that moment was so full of joy, relief and promise. But after that quiet day in a quiet hospital room, the serenity of that moment escaped as I was catapulted into motherhood.
Sometimes in the day-to-day chaos of playdates, macaroni and cheese and scraping Play-doh out of the carpet, it gets difficult to really enjoy motherhood.
So this year, my New Year’s resolution is to remember that the joy of motherhood comes in snippets, in little moments like tea parties and morning kisses that we have to grab onto tightly and refuse to let go.
So this year I’ll be taking the motherhood mayhem in stride, but I’ll be seeking out those elusive, but infinitely precious, joyful motherhood moments.
What are your New Year’s Resolutions this year? Any tips to help me better find the joy in motherhood?