Mommy wars

The feud has gone on long enough.

I’m calling an end to the war between stay-at-home moms and working moms right now. There may be a mud pit and boxing gloves involved, but in the end, we will all have thrown a few punches and will feel much better.

The stay-at-homes never feel like they get the recognition they deserve, which causes them to be say defensive things like “all moms are working moms.” On the other hand, career moms are tired of feeling unworthy of their uterus when judgmental women at church act as if the 11th commandment is “Thou shalt not earn any money after you pop out a kid.”

I can see both sides. I work from home — usually when my daughter is asleep — but even if I worked full-time, would that make me a “bad mom?” And who is so self-important that they feel the right to hand out those labels?

So I say mud pit. It’s quick, it’s dirty and by the end we’ll all be hugging each other and talking about the real enemy here — our children.

Kidding, of course. The real culprit is plain old insecurity about who we are as moms. So we lash out at anyone who does it differently.

So instead of judging each other, let’s try learning about each other. Why did you decide to stay at home or work as a mom?

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